@fionafokus isn't that a fundamental problem? what stops a person who wants to follow people without their consent from running their own server?
(... my suspicion is that the desire of many fediversians to be visible and invisible at the same time is one of the internal contradictions that means other platforms win)
@UP8 @fionafokus that requires that that new instance has at least one account which was approved by the private account owner - the problem is that shared instances where one user has successfully requested a follow to a private account are then responsible to enforce which of their users can an can not see these posts (hope that explains it)